Non-Birth Partners & Perinatal Couples — Evidence Based Couples Therapy

non-birth partners & perinatal couples

“I miss my partner. I miss the way she used to look at me, and I miss the things we used to do together. The ways that we used to connect. Most days, I feel like an accessory in our relationship, and no matter how hard I try, it seems like I’m falling short of being the kind of partner and parent that she expected. We hardly have time to talk to one another, and when we have the time, we are too tired for meaningful conversation. The fatigue seems to lead to miscommunication, irritability, and growing resentment. I feel unimportant most days, like she could do this with or without me.

I feel like I’m failing at everything, and it feels like there is pressure coming from all directions.

I’m also feeling disconnected from who I am, or who I used to be. I feel guilty if I take the time to go to the gym or meet up with my cycling group; if I go into the office early or stay late to meet a deadline; when I try to help with the evening routine but end up more of a hindrance. Pressure. Failing. The things that used to make me feel strong and confident are now laced with anxiety, worry, and guilt. I feel so stuck, confused, and uncertain.”

Here at be., we recognize that non-birth partners face their own challenges during the transition to parenthood.

Dr. Juli Buchanan, a non-birth partner herself, specializes in supporting non-birth partners during pregnancy and following childbirth. And because even the strongest couples can experience distress and disconnection, often associated with feelings of fear, loneliness, anger, and resentment, Juli is ready with evidence-based therapies to support couples in growing together during this transition. In addition to assisting non-birth partners and couples, Juli has specialty training related to helping women experiencing depression and anxiety during pregnancy and during the postpartum period.

For more information about services for non-birth partners and couples, or to schedule an appointment, please contact Dr. Juli Buchanan.